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It my 42nd..
I have superseded my exceptions for me. I don’t even think I could have ever imagined my life as it is in this present moment. Y’all, I have to laugh at this so bear with me: I have two ex husbands (one who sent me a text today for my birthday) and a baby daddy… Continue reading
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What lessons have I learned from Sedinam -days late post…
Yesterday the couple that I was asked to speak to experienced a loss. Their baby passed. I listened to the wife who called me first to tell me cry. She said everything that anyone one have said in her shoes. She cried so bad y’all. I listened and repeated myself, “it’s going to be ok.”… Continue reading
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Reminder of what matters -days late post
Today we had a doctors appointment in Charlotte, NC. For 3 1/2 years this was my city. Well, actually one of my cities. I still cannot believe I lived a double life. Law school, college professor. When I stopped to think of all that I’ve cleared from my goal list, y’all, I realized I have… Continue reading
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Running Out of Titles For Posts
Last evening, Sedi, Spike, and I went walking. It was pretty chilly for a May evening, but it’s been rainy all weekend. I noticed plants had fallen in front of a far away neighbors house. I only remembered seeing this neighbor once. I saw her with her two kids (a toddler slightly older than Sedi… Continue reading
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Joyful
Last week I watched my mentor hold it together for her husbands memorial. Five organizations provided him with resolutions. The impact he made in his life was surreal. I’m beyond impressed and always have been by all that he did, all that he touched, and how humble he was. I listened to the many stories… Continue reading
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Perfect Peaceful…
Yesterday a friend sent me a text. It was an IG video and the woman who spoke asked a question. Prior to sharing the question, she shared the background to include, we should ask richer questions to assist with our growth. This made me think of how I was known to many; “she always asks… Continue reading
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Remain True to Self
Too often in relationships, friendships, familyships we escape our true selves. Why? Many of us want to adapt to certain people, situations, etc. Yesterday I received a text from an old colleague. A few days ago she sent me a text out of the blue sharing how I have inspired her, etc. This message stated,… Continue reading
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Happy Mother’s Day
If I can be honest, I have struggled since birthing Sedinam. Initially it was because my body was sore and I felt broken mentally, physically, and mentally. I continued to struggle because I developed this sad sorry for myself. You see, I have been going through a court litigation since September 2021. That was one… Continue reading
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Release Your Feelings
At least three times a week I frequent a fitness center. I’ve been pretty consistent for the last month. I joined in November. I feel so much better when I exercise and always have felt better. I’m trying to factor in running/walking, but I have to pace myself. Anthony is my accountability partner and he… Continue reading
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Truly Embrace it…
About one week ago, I received a text asking if I would call a college classmate to share my story about Sedinam. This particular person that texted me has a similar story. I contemplated responding in the affirmative for a few seconds. I responded asking for the person’s phone number. I spoke with the husband/wife… Continue reading
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Unwinding
How do you unwind after a demanding day? I’be never been this heavy before. I let go of the weight I got to when I was pregnant with Sedi just to pick a lot of it back up. My life has been all about her; doctor appointments, therapy appointments, quality time, and then of course… Continue reading
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Unique
Which aspects do you think makes a person unique? Anthony loves to thrift. My dad use to love going to yard sales. I don’t. When I look at Anthony’s “fits” (that’s what they call their outfits now), they are always “him.” His is eccentric and he likes what he likes. His tees make me laugh… Continue reading
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Don’t Ever Lower Your Standards
A few days ago I sent Jason a video of Sedi and I laughed at his response, “…just like mommy.” I’ll get to my point soon. Desmond said today while we were in FaceTime for me to take a photo before I rebraided my hair because we were “twinning.” And someone shared she has many… Continue reading
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This Thing Called Life: Chapter 2: A Story That is Similar to So Many
My therapist told me I needed to write a screen play for this chapter of my life. We agreed the name of the book should be: “I Can’t Even Make Up This ..Issh.” I reflect a lot and sometimes I drown in my thoughts. Drown…might not be the right word to use, but I “soak”… Continue reading
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Lesson #10- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, Don’t ever let anyone silence you! Your voice is important. Don’t ever feel as if you have to shut yourself down because people are targeting you. My attorney recently shared an issue that was going on and after I followed up and shared everything, the truth came out. I received threats and I’m… Continue reading
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Lesson #9- Sedinam is Almost 2
Don’t be afraid! Stand up for what is right even if it means you are unliked by people. Don’t let anyone bully you or find ways to shut you up! Speak up and your mom will always have your back when you are right! As part Ghanaian, I’m learning that many still have antiquated ideals… Continue reading
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Lesson #8- Sedinam is Almost 2
Clap your hands and celebrate all of your victories. I told you to close the kitchen cabinet today. You stand at the cabinets, open them, and contemplate if you need to get something. It is quite funny. Today, I looked at you and said, “No ma’am, close that cabinet door.” You listen well. You did… Continue reading
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Lesson #7-Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, Enjoy your life! I still remember the first movie Mike and I took Anthony to. He was barely one year old and he did amazing. Although I’m a single mom, you are on a feeding tube, we still have to live. I am thankful your brother was able to experience your first movie… Continue reading
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Lesson #6- Sedinam is Almost 2
Sedinam, Take time to relax! And it’s ok to eat in bed sometimes… 🤪 Continue reading
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Lesson #5- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, The countdown continues. I’m so proud of the toddler you have become. I just listened to Journeys song, “Don’t Stop Believin’,” and the lesson I’ve learned is don’t ever let life’s circumstances make you angry, bitter, or distrustful of what will happen. You are supposed to encounter things. You are supposed to embrace… Continue reading
About Me
I have been afforded the ability to accept the many trials, laughs, tribulations that life throws my way and embrace them as much as possible. I am a mom, a lover of life, and person that reflects too much.
TTCL 