Embrace opportunities
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Walking in her mom’s shoes…
I don’t want either of my kiddos following in my footsteps. I worked to hard and while hard work is great, I focused so much on trying to avoid doing wrong. Someone asked about my PhD journey recently and suggested I blog about it and I’m not happy with this journey. While I’m growing and… Continue reading
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The best kind of conversations…
I decided at the last minute last night that I would get dressed up and go hang out for the night… A question that my soror and I discussed while sitting at the bar (YUP!! I had a drink…) was “Who is this new version of you?” For me that is a pretty tough question… Continue reading
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Mommy vacation
Today my girlfriends and I decided to take a real vacation! I shared with them my challenges and they made a plan to be right there with me to take care of Sedi while I actually take time to myself! It will not be anytime soon, but they are going to help me plan because… Continue reading
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#ButGod
I’m sure I used this title before, but last night my mind wandered after listening to my sermon. Those of you that follow my blog know that I attend virtually Mt. Zion in Nashville, TN. This past weekend I hired a babysitter so I could organize and honestly sleep. Anthony and I are tired and… Continue reading
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Self Loving
I did a thing this weekend! I stopped, I took the best nap, and I had my babysitter come stay with me for the weekend to help Anthony and I out with Sedinam. Y’all, I caught up on one of my tv shows, I folded clothes, I even called a friend back. We went to… Continue reading
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Live life..
This weekend was the first event I’ve gone to since COVID-19… since Sedi was born. I’ve promised myself that I would do better with self-caring. I love music, I love being around friends, and this weekend along with the last few weeks have given me life. From seeing Jason and Des and Tikela and others,… Continue reading
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What lessons have I learned from Sedinam -days late post…
Yesterday the couple that I was asked to speak to experienced a loss. Their baby passed. I listened to the wife who called me first to tell me cry. She said everything that anyone one have said in her shoes. She cried so bad y’all. I listened and repeated myself, “it’s going to be ok.”… Continue reading
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Running Out of Titles For Posts
Last evening, Sedi, Spike, and I went walking. It was pretty chilly for a May evening, but it’s been rainy all weekend. I noticed plants had fallen in front of a far away neighbors house. I only remembered seeing this neighbor once. I saw her with her two kids (a toddler slightly older than Sedi… Continue reading
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Joyful
Last week I watched my mentor hold it together for her husbands memorial. Five organizations provided him with resolutions. The impact he made in his life was surreal. I’m beyond impressed and always have been by all that he did, all that he touched, and how humble he was. I listened to the many stories… Continue reading
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Remain True to Self
Too often in relationships, friendships, familyships we escape our true selves. Why? Many of us want to adapt to certain people, situations, etc. Yesterday I received a text from an old colleague. A few days ago she sent me a text out of the blue sharing how I have inspired her, etc. This message stated,… Continue reading
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Unique
Which aspects do you think makes a person unique? Anthony loves to thrift. My dad use to love going to yard sales. I don’t. When I look at Anthony’s “fits” (that’s what they call their outfits now), they are always “him.” His is eccentric and he likes what he likes. His tees make me laugh… Continue reading
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Forgive You, Not Them
Last night i had a conversation via text with a soror. They shared trauma that they encountered for a few years. Her strength and ability to always live life surprised me that she encountered such. We discussed forgiveness and how such experiences could have pushed us to be angry and bitter. Despite bad circumstances, I’ve… Continue reading
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Sedi Bedi Edi… my almost 2 year old!
My girl is almost two years old. So much has happened over the last two years… But she is thriving… I had faith …I have faith… I prayed and had an amazing prayer circle … But God… She is about 17 pounds … My busy body Sedi Bedi Edi #MyOnce13ounceBAby Continue reading
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HIS promises
I’ve been having a conversation over the last few days to encourage a young lady. Many young women I know are hopeful romantics. I’ll include myself in this too. We give. We forgive. We attempt to be practical. We don’t harp on mistakes but we want to hold you accountable. She woke up with a… Continue reading
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You must have a sense of humor…
If you go back, you will remember that post I wrote about my drive to Kentucky. I shared that with someone and then I reminded Fleming and he remembered. I’ve been chatting with a former student lately and I realized truly that our testimonies are really not for us. There is no response I can… Continue reading
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Be Unbothered
A FB friend reached out to me yesterday. I posted a few photos and videos of Sedinam. I was asked about her g-tube and promised a soror over one month ago that I would make a video. It never happened. It was subconscious. Or maybe it was intentional that I did not do it. I… Continue reading
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Exhaustion /Exhausted
I am thankful. I’m healthy. I am alive. a few weeks ago Sedinam was approved for 40 hours of nurse care. Then we were approved for 50 hours. This does not include the additional aid support. One of her therapist told her nurse, “if we could have parents to do 1/8 of what Kiera does…”… Continue reading
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Self care …
Today I took the day to self care. Well, that was after Sedi’s doctor appointment and going to see my dad. Oh, and after the phone calls I needed to make to ensure she received all of her monthly supplies.. oh and after the call from DMV to update me on my dads handicap placard..… Continue reading
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Love and support
A law clerk and the practicing attorney sent me emails in the past asking me how was I able to make my ends meet if I didn’t have a job. They also told me that child support is not meant to be used by me for anything outside of the child. I’ve always told everyone… Continue reading
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Access Denied
Sedinam is “thriving and teaching us about life,” one of her medical providers shared with me recently. Last week I could not shake this headache I had. I took COVID tests, I took Tylenol, but for some reason I could not shake that feeling until we drove back from the funeral. Life can wear us… Continue reading
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Love and Grace
This is love and this is grace… He loves her and she loves him so much! Thank God for the grace that He gives us! Thank God for the love He gives us! Thank God for two perfect beings in my life! Continue reading
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The Titanic -The Survivor
With every storm, there is calm. This week many storms occurred. Unexpected death, unexpected diagnosis, unexpected (or rather expected because people know when they do wrong) charges would led to prison. Unexpected phone calls are not abnormal for me. I’ve had the same number, so I always get such, but I’m bad with uploading my… Continue reading
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It’s 2023…
Twenty years ago I was pregnant. Nineteen days later I birthed Anthony. I was a full time undergraduate student. I didn’t plan the pregnancy at all, but I planned how I would still graduate on time. I planned so much after this. I wrote in my planners and journals. I wrote affirmations that I memorized.… Continue reading
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The Lotus Flower
The other day, I went to the jewelry store and purchased me a necklace. I’ve learned to celebrate every moment that I “win.” Today I checked my grades and I’ve survived 3 semesters of a PhD program, being a mom to Sedinam, being a mom to Anthony, working as a college professor, working as a… Continue reading
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Things that make you go hmmmmmm
A lot of things perplex me, but I must say that I’m beyond thankful. I watch Sedi laugh and play and her laughter is therapy. Her ability to see the peace and love is healing. As we listen to music throughout the day, I’m grateful for her responses. Her soul is beautiful! Her heart is… Continue reading
About Me
I have been afforded the ability to accept the many trials, laughs, tribulations that life throws my way and embrace them as much as possible. I am a mom, a lover of life, and person that reflects too much.
This Thing Called Life by Ki O’Shea 