life as we know it
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What lessons have I learned from Sedinam -days late post…
Yesterday the couple that I was asked to speak to experienced a loss. Their baby passed. I listened to the wife who called me first to tell me cry. She said everything that anyone one have said in her shoes. She cried so bad y’all. I listened and repeated myself, “it’s going to be ok.”… Continue reading
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Running Out of Titles For Posts
Last evening, Sedi, Spike, and I went walking. It was pretty chilly for a May evening, but it’s been rainy all weekend. I noticed plants had fallen in front of a far away neighbors house. I only remembered seeing this neighbor once. I saw her with her two kids (a toddler slightly older than Sedi… Continue reading
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Joyful
Last week I watched my mentor hold it together for her husbands memorial. Five organizations provided him with resolutions. The impact he made in his life was surreal. I’m beyond impressed and always have been by all that he did, all that he touched, and how humble he was. I listened to the many stories… Continue reading
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Unique
Which aspects do you think makes a person unique? Anthony loves to thrift. My dad use to love going to yard sales. I don’t. When I look at Anthony’s “fits” (that’s what they call their outfits now), they are always “him.” His is eccentric and he likes what he likes. His tees make me laugh… Continue reading
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Lesson #7-Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, Enjoy your life! I still remember the first movie Mike and I took Anthony to. He was barely one year old and he did amazing. Although I’m a single mom, you are on a feeding tube, we still have to live. I am thankful your brother was able to experience your first movie… Continue reading
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Lesson #6- Sedinam is Almost 2
Sedinam, Take time to relax! And it’s ok to eat in bed sometimes… 🤪 Continue reading
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Lesson #1- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, These lessons are not in any particular order. I wanted to do a countdown for your birthday beginning March 1st. These are my lessons and I wanted to share with you. Capture the moments. Actively listen and watch. Mommy loves photos, so I have thousands of photos from my entire life that I… Continue reading
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Lesson #3- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, I LOVE your laugh! I Just laugh! Regardless of what is going on, don’t forget to laugh and allow God to handle your battles! Thank you for these daily reminders! Continue reading
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Determination
Sedi Girl, my Sedi Bedi Edi, Girlfriend, Bad Girl, We are less than month from your birthday. I have a two year old almost and I’m so happy I took the time to embrace your journey. I did my best to savor every moment; particularly after I realized I needed to divert my focus. We… Continue reading
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Break My Heart…
I am sure it’s been a few weeks now, but one of my close friends reminded me of the guys who love me. They are all my brothers. They are protective and have been there to always remind me to keep pushing. Life affords us these memories to ultimately show growth. In most areas of… Continue reading
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Forgive You, Not Them
Last night i had a conversation via text with a soror. They shared trauma that they encountered for a few years. Her strength and ability to always live life surprised me that she encountered such. We discussed forgiveness and how such experiences could have pushed us to be angry and bitter. Despite bad circumstances, I’ve… Continue reading
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Listen
The last few days have been tiresome. All that I do, I finally realized it is ok to be tired. I shared with one of those that I speak with that “you will be ok.” Almost daily for awhile I asked Anthony, “am I going to be ok?” I was unsure how I was going… Continue reading
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Preservation
A mentee reached out to me this week. Her testimony hurts my heart. She is a new mommy again and her husband left her the same way he left her with their first child. That child is five. The new baby is barely six weeks. He has only seen the baby two times, live less… Continue reading
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Exhaustion /Exhausted
I am thankful. I’m healthy. I am alive. a few weeks ago Sedinam was approved for 40 hours of nurse care. Then we were approved for 50 hours. This does not include the additional aid support. One of her therapist told her nurse, “if we could have parents to do 1/8 of what Kiera does…”… Continue reading
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Love and support
A law clerk and the practicing attorney sent me emails in the past asking me how was I able to make my ends meet if I didn’t have a job. They also told me that child support is not meant to be used by me for anything outside of the child. I’ve always told everyone… Continue reading
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Access Denied
Sedinam is “thriving and teaching us about life,” one of her medical providers shared with me recently. Last week I could not shake this headache I had. I took COVID tests, I took Tylenol, but for some reason I could not shake that feeling until we drove back from the funeral. Life can wear us… Continue reading
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A tribute to my cousin…
God gives us strength daily, but he does not always give us the “why.” Pray for my cousin, my family, his friend, and just our world! https://www.wavy.com/news/2-arrested-in-connection-to-bizarre-vb-car-crash-and-homicide-investigation/ Continue reading
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Love and Grace
This is love and this is grace… He loves her and she loves him so much! Thank God for the grace that He gives us! Thank God for the love He gives us! Thank God for two perfect beings in my life! Continue reading
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20 on the 20th…
I know it’s coming… the tears and emotions that I have knowing Anthony is getting older… I flipped through old photo albums today, texted his dad, and finalized his birthday gift. I’m proud of the young man he has become. From being a college student, to stepping up to be a big brother role model… Continue reading
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The Titanic -The Survivor
With every storm, there is calm. This week many storms occurred. Unexpected death, unexpected diagnosis, unexpected (or rather expected because people know when they do wrong) charges would led to prison. Unexpected phone calls are not abnormal for me. I’ve had the same number, so I always get such, but I’m bad with uploading my… Continue reading
About Me
I have been afforded the ability to accept the many trials, laughs, tribulations that life throws my way and embrace them as much as possible. I am a mom, a lover of life, and person that reflects too much.
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