#NeverWouldHaveMadeIt
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It my 42nd..
I have superseded my exceptions for me. I don’t even think I could have ever imagined my life as it is in this present moment. Y’all, I have to laugh at this so bear with me: I have two ex husbands (one who sent me a text today for my birthday) and a baby daddy… Continue reading
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What lessons have I learned from Sedinam -days late post…
Yesterday the couple that I was asked to speak to experienced a loss. Their baby passed. I listened to the wife who called me first to tell me cry. She said everything that anyone one have said in her shoes. She cried so bad y’all. I listened and repeated myself, “it’s going to be ok.”… Continue reading
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Reminder of what matters -days late post
Today we had a doctors appointment in Charlotte, NC. For 3 1/2 years this was my city. Well, actually one of my cities. I still cannot believe I lived a double life. Law school, college professor. When I stopped to think of all that I’ve cleared from my goal list, y’all, I realized I have… Continue reading
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Running Out of Titles For Posts
Last evening, Sedi, Spike, and I went walking. It was pretty chilly for a May evening, but it’s been rainy all weekend. I noticed plants had fallen in front of a far away neighbors house. I only remembered seeing this neighbor once. I saw her with her two kids (a toddler slightly older than Sedi… Continue reading
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Joyful
Last week I watched my mentor hold it together for her husbands memorial. Five organizations provided him with resolutions. The impact he made in his life was surreal. I’m beyond impressed and always have been by all that he did, all that he touched, and how humble he was. I listened to the many stories… Continue reading
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Remain True to Self
Too often in relationships, friendships, familyships we escape our true selves. Why? Many of us want to adapt to certain people, situations, etc. Yesterday I received a text from an old colleague. A few days ago she sent me a text out of the blue sharing how I have inspired her, etc. This message stated,… Continue reading
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Unique
Which aspects do you think makes a person unique? Anthony loves to thrift. My dad use to love going to yard sales. I don’t. When I look at Anthony’s “fits” (that’s what they call their outfits now), they are always “him.” His is eccentric and he likes what he likes. His tees make me laugh… Continue reading
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Lesson #7-Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, Enjoy your life! I still remember the first movie Mike and I took Anthony to. He was barely one year old and he did amazing. Although I’m a single mom, you are on a feeding tube, we still have to live. I am thankful your brother was able to experience your first movie… Continue reading
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Lesson #5- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, The countdown continues. I’m so proud of the toddler you have become. I just listened to Journeys song, “Don’t Stop Believin’,” and the lesson I’ve learned is don’t ever let life’s circumstances make you angry, bitter, or distrustful of what will happen. You are supposed to encounter things. You are supposed to embrace… Continue reading
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Lesson #4- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, My dad always told the guys that were interested in me that, “my daughter will not have a boyfriend until she finishes her four years of college.” Now, while that didn’t happen, I “superseded my expectations” he told me awhile back. He also tells the nurses how proud he is of me. They… Continue reading
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Lesson #1- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, These lessons are not in any particular order. I wanted to do a countdown for your birthday beginning March 1st. These are my lessons and I wanted to share with you. Capture the moments. Actively listen and watch. Mommy loves photos, so I have thousands of photos from my entire life that I… Continue reading
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Lesson #3- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, I LOVE your laugh! I Just laugh! Regardless of what is going on, don’t forget to laugh and allow God to handle your battles! Thank you for these daily reminders! Continue reading
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Lesson #2- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, I learned the true definition of focus watching you. Watching you as you are grasping a new concept is mindblowing to me. You are this tiny person full of determination. You center your entire attention to whatever has your attention. At that time. It’s a reminder to me. Never ever allow anything to… Continue reading
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Protect Your Peace
We have gates all through our house. It’s so funny because Anthony was very busy as a toddler, but Sedi girl…. Anthony was also raised with two parents, attended daycare, and we had a circle of people that helped us with him. Sedinam is a COVID baby. I had to place many restrictions, which ultimately… Continue reading
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Forgive You, Not Them
Last night i had a conversation via text with a soror. They shared trauma that they encountered for a few years. Her strength and ability to always live life surprised me that she encountered such. We discussed forgiveness and how such experiences could have pushed us to be angry and bitter. Despite bad circumstances, I’ve… Continue reading
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Patience …
It might take days or years, but trust God will always reveal wrong. After many many months; actually since Sedi has been out of the NICU, I was able to finally get full time nurse care for Sedinam! I shared this recently. This is provided through a service called EFMP and ECHO that is provided… Continue reading
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Sedi Bedi Edi… my almost 2 year old!
My girl is almost two years old. So much has happened over the last two years… But she is thriving… I had faith …I have faith… I prayed and had an amazing prayer circle … But God… She is about 17 pounds … My busy body Sedi Bedi Edi #MyOnce13ounceBAby Continue reading
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HIS promises
I’ve been having a conversation over the last few days to encourage a young lady. Many young women I know are hopeful romantics. I’ll include myself in this too. We give. We forgive. We attempt to be practical. We don’t harp on mistakes but we want to hold you accountable. She woke up with a… Continue reading
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You must have a sense of humor…
If you go back, you will remember that post I wrote about my drive to Kentucky. I shared that with someone and then I reminded Fleming and he remembered. I’ve been chatting with a former student lately and I realized truly that our testimonies are really not for us. There is no response I can… Continue reading
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The Sorry AF Baby Daddy
God is working on me. Today as I drove to get Sedi’s bloodwork, I got mad for baby mommas. I called Des and pretty much went off. And I’m not mad for myself, but I really am angry for all the baby mommas with sorry ass men! Screenshot this, send it to an attorney, do… Continue reading
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About Me
I have been afforded the ability to accept the many trials, laughs, tribulations that life throws my way and embrace them as much as possible. I am a mom, a lover of life, and person that reflects too much.