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Reminder of what matters -days late post
Today we had a doctors appointment in Charlotte, NC. For 3 1/2 years this was my city. Well, actually one of my cities. I still cannot believe I lived a double life. Law school, college professor. When I stopped to think of all that I’ve cleared from my goal list, y’all, I realized I have… Continue reading
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Running Out of Titles For Posts
Last evening, Sedi, Spike, and I went walking. It was pretty chilly for a May evening, but it’s been rainy all weekend. I noticed plants had fallen in front of a far away neighbors house. I only remembered seeing this neighbor once. I saw her with her two kids (a toddler slightly older than Sedi… Continue reading
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Joyful
Last week I watched my mentor hold it together for her husbands memorial. Five organizations provided him with resolutions. The impact he made in his life was surreal. I’m beyond impressed and always have been by all that he did, all that he touched, and how humble he was. I listened to the many stories… Continue reading
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Unique
Which aspects do you think makes a person unique? Anthony loves to thrift. My dad use to love going to yard sales. I don’t. When I look at Anthony’s “fits” (that’s what they call their outfits now), they are always “him.” His is eccentric and he likes what he likes. His tees make me laugh… Continue reading
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Don’t Ever Lower Your Standards
A few days ago I sent Jason a video of Sedi and I laughed at his response, “…just like mommy.” I’ll get to my point soon. Desmond said today while we were in FaceTime for me to take a photo before I rebraided my hair because we were “twinning.” And someone shared she has many… Continue reading
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Lesson #7-Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, Enjoy your life! I still remember the first movie Mike and I took Anthony to. He was barely one year old and he did amazing. Although I’m a single mom, you are on a feeding tube, we still have to live. I am thankful your brother was able to experience your first movie… Continue reading
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Lesson #6- Sedinam is Almost 2
Sedinam, Take time to relax! And it’s ok to eat in bed sometimes… 🤪 Continue reading
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Lesson #5- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, The countdown continues. I’m so proud of the toddler you have become. I just listened to Journeys song, “Don’t Stop Believin’,” and the lesson I’ve learned is don’t ever let life’s circumstances make you angry, bitter, or distrustful of what will happen. You are supposed to encounter things. You are supposed to embrace… Continue reading
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Lesson #4- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, My dad always told the guys that were interested in me that, “my daughter will not have a boyfriend until she finishes her four years of college.” Now, while that didn’t happen, I “superseded my expectations” he told me awhile back. He also tells the nurses how proud he is of me. They… Continue reading
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Lesson #3- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedi, I LOVE your laugh! I Just laugh! Regardless of what is going on, don’t forget to laugh and allow God to handle your battles! Thank you for these daily reminders! Continue reading
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Lesson #2- Sedinam is Almost 2
Dear Sedinam, I learned the true definition of focus watching you. Watching you as you are grasping a new concept is mindblowing to me. You are this tiny person full of determination. You center your entire attention to whatever has your attention. At that time. It’s a reminder to me. Never ever allow anything to… Continue reading
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Resilience
Dear Sedinam, It’s 2023. It’s Women’s History Month. It’s 23 days until Sedinam’s 2nd birthday. I have learned so much from this baby girl. Women are resilient creatures, but this baby girl has defined that term. Sedinam, I pray that you continue to push forward and always know your worth and your strength. #From13OuncesTO17lbsAndGrowing In… Continue reading
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Determination
Sedi Girl, my Sedi Bedi Edi, Girlfriend, Bad Girl, We are less than month from your birthday. I have a two year old almost and I’m so happy I took the time to embrace your journey. I did my best to savor every moment; particularly after I realized I needed to divert my focus. We… Continue reading
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Break My Heart…
I am sure it’s been a few weeks now, but one of my close friends reminded me of the guys who love me. They are all my brothers. They are protective and have been there to always remind me to keep pushing. Life affords us these memories to ultimately show growth. In most areas of… Continue reading
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Forgive You, Not Them
Last night i had a conversation via text with a soror. They shared trauma that they encountered for a few years. Her strength and ability to always live life surprised me that she encountered such. We discussed forgiveness and how such experiences could have pushed us to be angry and bitter. Despite bad circumstances, I’ve… Continue reading
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Patience …
It might take days or years, but trust God will always reveal wrong. After many many months; actually since Sedi has been out of the NICU, I was able to finally get full time nurse care for Sedinam! I shared this recently. This is provided through a service called EFMP and ECHO that is provided… Continue reading
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Boundaries
I’m a social introvert. As of lately, I can probably take the “social” out because God has me in a place of complete solitude. I woke up this morning, prayed, and watched Sedi sleep. I didn’t want to get Ho. If I can be honest, my cycle came on a few days ago and I… Continue reading
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Attachment
Sedi absolutely loves her brother! He walks into the room and they both smile. I’ve written about this before. Last night we went to bed at 9pm. Y’all I was exhausted! She was exhausted too! We had an early morning on Valentines Day. We had doctors appointments. This one was two hours away. Today no… Continue reading
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HIS promises
I’ve been having a conversation over the last few days to encourage a young lady. Many young women I know are hopeful romantics. I’ll include myself in this too. We give. We forgive. We attempt to be practical. We don’t harp on mistakes but we want to hold you accountable. She woke up with a… Continue reading
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Listen
The last few days have been tiresome. All that I do, I finally realized it is ok to be tired. I shared with one of those that I speak with that “you will be ok.” Almost daily for awhile I asked Anthony, “am I going to be ok?” I was unsure how I was going… Continue reading
About Me
I have been afforded the ability to accept the many trials, laughs, tribulations that life throws my way and embrace them as much as possible. I am a mom, a lover of life, and person that reflects too much.
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